From One Survivor to Another
Anonymous asked: (Tw: abuse, domestic violence, tip list) How do you feel about people who are saying that people should not be posting about and reblogging the tip list for people in abusive situations? People are saying if you don't know their situation you shouldn't encourage them to do anything that could get them hurt, no one cares what your aunt did, this isn't the place to show off what you learned in first aid class etc.
missvoltairine made a post about the list, and people who agree are saying it is along the lines of victim blaming etc.
I think it’s absurd to call it victim blaming to want to share and collaborate together on different things that have helped people in these situations. That post assumes that people reblogging are just doing it to “show off” or whatever, but um, a lot of the notes are from people who have actually dealt with abusive situations, so…i don’t understand where this person is getting this impression. I mean I really do not have the imagination to think up half of the things people suggested in that thread. I don’t think it’s like saying, “you must do all of these things or else it is your fault!”, it’s just people saying, “here are different ideas i’ve heard or have from personal experience and one of them may help you some day or today, even*.”
*I am actually a little insulted because the tip I posted about going to a locked public building to set the automatic alarm and get the police is, in fact, based on personal experience (and it helped me) :\
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jhameia likes this
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youarenotyou said:
that’s a really oversimplified [mis]interpretation of what people’s problems are w/ the post…
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secretsofthedisabled likes this
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the-changing-sky said:
victim-blaming is saying, “here’s what I did, you can too, and if you don’t it’s your fault.” that’s totally different from, “here’s some tips, I don’t know anyone else’s situation, but here’s what helped me, maybe it can help you.”
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